Back in December my mother retired and my sister and I threw a surprise retirement party for her shortly after Christmas. We had invited a lot of people but were unsure who would actually attend since it was just two days after Christmas. One of the people who we invited is a very close family friend named Deb, and her husband and daughter. I had really hoped they would come since I hadn't seen Deb in over 15 years. As she came through the door my heart stopped and my eyes filled with tears. If there were ever a moment in my life where I've seen someone who is so much a part of who I am and became emotionally overwhelmed-that was it.
Deb was my parent's close friend from our church. She was also my babysitter. Deb was awesome and she made everything so much fun-I'm not kidding either, she always knew how to have a good time. I remember being very young and hearing her sing in the church, seeing her bake in her kitchen, and going with her to her evening job cleaning one of our favorite Mexican restaurants (La Paloma). She would always turn that oven on and make us fresh food while she was cleaning. She took me to the movies (I still remember Care Bears), she took me to the pool, to the library, and we always had so much fun. She seemed so free spirited and laid back and always saw the best in people. When her husband Dale died of Leukemia we were all devastated. It brought us closer together, and I saw a woman keep her faith and her strength even in the midst of losing her husband. And then I saw her marry an amazing man, Lynn, who has been by her side ever since with their beautiful daughter Gabi. Throughout the years we lost touch....life happened and I hadn't seen Deb in over 15 years. As I got older I realized how much of an influence she had on me. All of those fun car rides, seeing her sing, watching her cook, her zest for life, and her ability to laugh are all things that are very much with me to this day. I have a wild and crazy fun side that surprises people who don't know me very well--well this comes from Deb! She knew how to be naughty (and still does). It was so good to see her and her family. I wanted to tell her just how much she meant to me, which I did through tears. I wanted her to know how much apart of me she is. I think we all can be grateful and thankful in this life to be touched and influence by people who truly love us. They influence our work and our lives in ways that are seen and unseen. I find people's influence in my life becomes more and more obvious to me the older I get. I'm so grateful to those who have influenced me in my life. Mr. Rogers summed it up best in his lifetime acceptance speech when he said: "So many people have helped me to come here to this night. Some of you are here, some are far away and some are even in Heaven. All of us have special ones who have loved us into being. Would you just take, along with me, 10 seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are, those who have cared about you and wanted what was best for you in life. 10 seconds of silence." Let's all take a moment now and think about those people who have influenced us and helped us to become who we are. You will find that your life is full of people who truly care about you and want the best for you. My you all have a wonderful February! Namaste, Justin
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Deb Haines
2/25/2016 07:58:10 pm
OH my I can't hardly believe what I have read you go through life wondering if there is anyone you have touched with your life and if those you have loved really knows how much you really loved them thank you justinfor getting it i have loved you like you were mine I couldn't thank your mom and dad enough for sharring you and Kim with me you gave meso much to look forward to it wasn't a job to me I always looked so forward to very day with you . You were one of the most precious kids I'd ever had the joy of having in my life I want to thank you for saying all the nice things in your blog I knew when you were little you were going to besomeoneso special and if I could talk to all those who have been blessed to know you they would tell me what a wonderful gifted awesome young man you are and how blessed they are to have you I there life if even for one second you leave a mark where ever you are your just that kind of person I can't thank god enough for allowing me to have had you I my life I have so so many wonderful memories about you I will be just sitting around and all of a sudden break out in laughter and Lynn or Gabi knows I'm having a Justin moment then they will make me tell them a Justin story and they will crack up too I love you so much your mom means more to me then my oun sisters we always start up where we left off I know to this day I could go to her with anything and she could do the same with me now that she is retired we are going to spend some time together I have always loved her so much I often felt that God allowed her to have you just for me your in my heart forever tell your handsome hubby I said hi and remind him everyday how blessed he is to have you I his life I envy him God bless you baby I'm sending this with lots of love thank you so much for the kind words xoxo
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